Hot or not open relationships?

Most of us like to try things in the bedroom now and again and while times have changed and as a society, we have all become more open as people  the open relationship remains a taboo, something that the lecherous hubby wants just to get a bit on the side while the wife makes the tea.

I hope you will be pardon my crudeness in the opening paragraphs, but it seems to me the slightest hint of wanting to spice up a relationship is just a cop out for the male of the relationship, to get the leg over with the hot secretary at work.

For the purposes of this article, I shall explore if open relationships are a viable lifestyle choice for couples who are in a rut or who just like to have fun and whether or not they are indeed a viable, moral decision for those of you who have their consciouses keeping them awake at night.

For many couples, the spark in the relationship usually goes out of it after a while, and things become more like a chore rather than an alive feeling within of being part of something wonderful and good to enjoy this is especially true for people who have been married a long time.

An open relationship is defined as a 'sexual relationship or liaisons with the prior knowledge of your partner ' a simple but straightforward definition, however, in reality, the truth and dynamics, of such a relationship are never straight forward or simple usually when one agrees to such a relationship, there is an agreed set of rules and protocols followed to maintain the viability of, the couple who decides to pursue this lifestyle  choice relationship.

These rules can vary from couple to couple and are a lot like a contract stating who the partners can see and who is off-limits for, example, example the sister of the wife or girlfriend this way the couple ensures the survival of their relationship through an agreed set of terms and rules.

However, as in all things in life nothing is ever easy and when ego's clash or one partner feels they are getting little out of such a arrangement the foundations of the couples' relationship may, come apart and the beginning of recrimination and hurt may surface reaching its climax when the couple split in divorce or break up.

As in all break ups the end is always the hardest and perhaps if one wishes to keep their family together they should refrain from such a relationship with their children have at least, grown up or potentially suffer seeing their child being broken inside watching as their parents battle for custody.

On the other hand, an open relationship may work out well if both partners stick to the rules potentially breathing new life into a stale relationship with the couple now trusting each other, more than previously due to knowing even indulging in temptation there partner still wishes, to share what is most precious beyond lust with them love.

To other couples, such a idea may be repulsive and outright immoral personally I find it hard to say what is moral and what is not and base such a test on a hurt basis if such a relationship, is going to benefit one partner over the other it is therefore greedy on the other partner who wants it over the other to pursue the idea.

However, if the relationship style has potential to be of benefit to a relationship and will work out and not hurt anyone, then go for it however be warned the outcome rests with those involved and no one else.

To recap an open relationship can be of benefit if pursued with the right intentions involved and a couple are right to benefit from it, but as it is hard to see how a relationship between a couple works this claim cannot be verified, at all and as emotions take over from logic in pursuing such a relationship, catastrophic endings may arise.

Therefore, it is essential a couple decides to investigate if such a relationship works for them and perhaps give it a test run and before deciding to pursue an open relationship on a more permanent basis.    

Tips for pursuing an open relationship

Draw up a contract of rules before starting an open relationship

Talk to your partner openly and consider their feelings.

Draw up a list of best and worse outcomes and see if the benefits outweigh the negatives.

Stick to the rules